Showing posts from June, 2015

What Christians Should be Saying to Gays These Days (Part 1)

Like many, there's much on my mind in light of Friday's Supreme Court ruling on same-sex marriage.

First off, I don't support the decision, as I strongly believe God instituted the covenant of heterosexual marriage for our highest good (not to mention what God creates and establishes is infallible*).

Yet while it's difficult to watch our country celebrate an assumed idea of freedom (i.e. culturally defined) as opposed to an absolute reality of freedom (God defined), I’m not discouraged.

Why? Because ultimately…God is in control**.

I mean…if hell is God’s way of showing respect for human freedom, why would the issue of homosexuality be any different?

Granted, I know the topic is a hot one...and we all love to be right…to be the victim…to be the hero; I’m not writing this to start a war.

However, I do want to make a few things clear I feel would benefit everyone:

1) Just because I don’t support gay marriage, doesn’t mean I hate gays.
2) Just because I don’t hate gays, …

3 Challenges for 21st Century Youth Leaders

In a previous post, I outlined five important lessons for 21st century youth pastors. Today, I’m going to switch gears by discussing three of the biggest challenges youth leaders face on a daily basis.

1) The Parent-Youth Pastor Relationship

I’m not a parent1. Obviously, I can’t fully relate to the stresses they endure. Yet, I do know parent and pastor don’t always see eye to eye. Granted, parents know their youth better; however, this doesn’t mean they automatically understand the youth group better2.

Truth is: The parent can be a youth pastor’s most difficult relational experience3 ; however, if trust and communication is established from the get-go, the relationship will have a greater opportunity to flourish.

In my experience, I’ve seen it all: parents asking other parents or staff questions they should be asking me, parents criticizing my effort to other pastors and parents4, parents pulling their kids out of youth group without any explanation, parents not making any effort to co…

LEGACYouth: "Why Go to Church?"

No question, we were made for community…to dwell in peace and harmony with one another (Romans 12:16; 1 Corinthians 1:10, Colossians 3:14).
Unfortunately, in this day and age, it’s far too easy to lose sight on what real community is. And while many point the finger to “rugged individualism”, technological advances, and unholy tolerances…perhaps the biggest culprit lies in how we culturally define relationship, specifically…that relationship and community are the same thing…and that community is the byproduct of formed the relationships.
Granted, such falsehood is easily bought, especially when you factor in we’re living in the most narcissistic age the world has ever seen. Yet, when we take what we hear and experience and contrast it to God’s Word, we find the truth looks radically different.
You see, before creation, community existed within the Trinity. There was no need for God to bond with Jesus…no need for the Holy Spirit to befriend God…no need for Jesus to send a Facebook friend …

3 Ways to Overcome a Fear of Rejection

No doubt, we all burn to belong. Makes sense…considering we were made for relationship…to put on love and commune in harmony (Romans 12:16; 1 Corinthians 1:10, Colossians 3:14). But let’s be honest…such desires aren’t always realized, are they. Relocations…busyness…life changes…even the walls we put up…cycle through as hindrances interfering with our need to find unity in community. Yet, perhaps the greatest obstacle we face when we talk about healthy relationships is the fear of rejection1. Now, I admit: I’m still progressing through my own set of relational insecurities. But while I may have much to learn, I’ve also grown a great deal having persevered through idolatrous pursuits of acceptance in my early 20's , in addition to recent challenges as a bivocational minister. So when I say a fear of rejection is one of the most paralyzing strongholds, you can take my word to the bank. As far as dealing with this fear type, you’ve probably heard much on the topic already. Yet, for bivocation…